Barfi.....

Do you want to be deaf and mute?
Can you hear your scour!! See ...we all enjoy snoring and hate when others do...
"So WHAT...." movie  Barfi is one of the few unconventional movie Indian Cinema have which have cutting edge laughter.THE BOY is so lively that he even performs when his father died. He is not live performer but life performer.

Laugh when your girlfriend leaves you because you are poor.So What!!...I can't really understand the character. He might have performed Charli Chaplin way or Raj Kapoor way...I strongly believe we behave the way we are put in but Burfy behaves the way he wants his life  to be. Deafness and muteness is not his weakness but it helped him lot to be what he wants to be. He can feel but not express....

I saw the movie last week and while watching I was just enjoying the comic acts . When I was coming back I realized thats how we should take life. We are not that lucky. Because we are normal and we pay for being normal.....



Autistic girl Jilmil is not a patient but LIFE...because  she can do what she wants...irrespective of what will be the .....she is what she wants to be....The autism is symbolism of just do the way you want.... And Barfi is how we should take life.....


And my take of the movie is we all should be sometimes like Barfi and Jilmil....because it becomes very important to live life then to just breath in and out.....


I am not film critic who can give star ratings because I don't have any milestones...I am an emotional viewer and like art in its form...and Barfi is an excellent piece of art..... 

Job of cleaning is no less white color job

Imagine a place full of garbage’s and dead bodies smell emitting. You will immediately call a sweeper. Your life in coming years will be exactly like this if we do not recognize the. They are the one who paves way to hygiene.  Cleaning homes is half done job.

Ask any parent: they will say my progeny will either be educated or more liberated family will allow playing or singing or may dance. But why do we forget this basic job. The answer is that sub consciously we all feel that this is not good for educated Indians.

Earlier if you believe sociologist they will tell you that our society was divided into four Verna: wherein the priests are Brahmins, the warriors are Kshatriya, the merchants are Vaishya, and the artisans are Shudras.

With the civilization growing the rigidity in this verna system become more prominent. Division on work soon transformed into division based on birth. Many social ethos and taboos got associated and now without any resistance we follow this system like dummy.

If logic and lateral thinking is reforming society why can’t we accept this change? You will generally see even the most educated society will automatically differentiate the work. Despite the gyaan ( Knowledge) given by schools or by religious gurus we fail to recognize their value and always undervalue them.

I have grown in family where mothers clean the rooms! This norm will have to be cleaned. Recognition and reward of this job have to be understood. We all have to eradicate this feeling of high and low in our life. If our body produces waste then its disposal has to be just one task. You discriminate both your hands!!

Last but not the least we should celebrate World Cleaning Day to encourage this profession.

Cleaning job should be highly paid job.

·           It should not be discriminatory job.

·         Mothers should take initiative to make our generations understand the fundamentals of cleaning

·           We should not hesitate in cleaning homes.

·          Advance techniques of cleaning should be brought in practice. 

·         Friendly and warmth to the cleaning professionals.

·         It’s just one another job after all there are so much energy being produced by these waste.

·         Teach a child not to demine others and best way to teach is to practice as “action speaks louder than word”.

I hope this article will provide some mercy towards sweepers and just by practicing this in your area will also motivate the sweepers to take their job with pride and help them work more efficiently. 

Stealing/ kleptomania in Personality

We all try to fulfill l the dreams of our child. Many at times we stuff the kid’s room with toys and other means f comfort. It mostly results that your child does not understand the difference of need. Need is some thing one should realize early in life. After all there is limit to materialism. Child should be able to differentiate between emotion and money making machine.

Most of the times when both the parents are working them just in order to hide their own guilt over pamper their child. You will be surprised to know that child is very smart and they very soon develop the habit of black mailing. Never let them do that because baby is part of family.

There are few things you must keep in mind:

·         Baby need to acclimatize in the existing set of family.

·         They should understand meaning of NO without being too sensitive.

·         Child need to understand the value system of the family else he/she will soon be a loner.

·         Love can be shared without money transition. Like sitting together and watching his/her favorite programs.

·         Study together.

·         Normal appreciation of his/her efforts. And imitating same efforts.

·         Spend some time without TV or phone with your baby.

·         Clean his/her room in presence and ask baby to help you.

·         Assign some work as to realize baby is also contributing in family affairs.

·         Ask for water or cleaning shoes as to realize them that cleaning is not a bad job to do.

·         If you give pocket money do no forget to ask about his management. Also ask about savings.

·         Do not keep on telling that kids today are very smart other wise they will take you for granted.

There is always a process of learning and unlearning. These are my ideas which might help to bring family closer and will develop good family value.

Many at times when you do not stop on materialistic demands of your child he/she may develop habit of stealing. Along with stealing definitely he/she will develop habit o hiding also.In long term they may turn out to be kleptomaniac(habit of picking things from shop)  Do not panic or slap your child. Before doing that think about the cause. Parents should always be problem solver. Discipline in life is very important aspect.

In this kind of situation we start blaming child and friends but in most of the cases we our self are the root cause. Because" high feeling" after every shopping is because of the parents. Its always important to be balanced. Do not always say no to all demands. Its equally important for the kid to "demand"- this will help him develop communication skill and persuasive skill. And believe me its great fun to even see that. Child is very good presenter. Let them groom and develop this skill.

Another aspect of child care is trust. Do not loose trust in them. And if you trust them definitely they will try not to breach that trust as ts priceless for them.

Hope this article will prove effective in your child grooming.

Satire/ Humor

Literature is always changing. This art form is integral part. It is gaining a lot of popularity in today’s writings. Firstly let’s understand humor: I am humorous. Will this make you laugh. No, because you have not experienced it. So satire and humor go hand in hand. Satirical works often contain "straight" humor, usually to give relief from what might otherwise be more like “preaching”.

The journey of history is too long being mentioned in pages. 

One thing we cannot get rid of is Renaissance. It is a cultural movement originated from 14^th century to 17th century which means rebirth. The term is also used more loosely to refer to the historical era, as a cultural movement, it encompassed a flowering of literature, science, art, religion, and as a cultural movement it impacted our society and gave new dimension to the art and living style of people. It brought humor on the interface. It is the period of transition from medieval to modern. Simple words it is phase of revival. It gave birth to many art forms and one of the art form is “Satire”. This fuses Satire and humor.

Gulliver travels of Jonnathen Swift are one of the must read books for all. It is a masterpiece of satire. Authors like Pope, Jonathan swift are master of this form.

Coming back to the writing form of satire:

·         At no point reader should loose humor.

·         Characters should be strong enough

·         Believable characters.

·         Situations can be hypothetical but incidents should have connect with the readers.

·         Readers do not indulge in the emotional aspect while reading rather their senses are active.

·         Readers should be critical.

·         Narration should be in first form.

·         Not advisable to have back and forth movement in writing.

·         Less use of flash back.

·         One should be aware of the facts else readers will not enjoy.

·         As a writer never undervalue your reader as he can understand.

·         Don’t get descriptive.

·         Reading between the lines is very important aspect.

·         Let your reader have space to form judgment so that they can enjoy your satire.

·         Current and updated topics should be the background.

So, next time when you try to read or write satires keep these in mind. This may help to write or read .

Anger :Friend/ Enemy

If you fight you are Normal.We all fight. Hence one thing is clear that it’s not abnormal to fight. Rather this is healthy sign of relationship. Most problems occur when you start hiding your aggression in order to skip fighting. Fighting is not violence according to me. It’s integral part of human nature. It is part of response mechanism in our body. It is as normal as withdrawing your hand when touching some unfavorable temperature.

Kinds of Anger: Broadly you can categorize your anger in three different forms:

Aggressive anger: when things become unbearable and you are not able to cope with your words or when your emotions are more than normal expression you start using your body gestures like bulling, pushing and at times slapping. This usually happens when you do not express yourself for long.

Other form is impulsive: usually when you see or feel some happening which is not seen before and probably you are not able to adapt with this you become angry.

If you do not vent out your anger you may be depressed at times or your behavioral aspect will change and within some time period you will become a pessimistic or escapist. And this form of anger is called passive anger. The vent for this aspect is: self blaming, self muttering, living in dark room, avoid eye contacts, being formal, Cold talks, watching motivational channels or too much TV , or watching contents you usually do not, or talking to people you don’t like too. If not taken care at earliest you either exclude your self or some times your passive anger becomes aggressive anger.

Anger should not be means of living. You should always think of cause and solution. These are few steps to try to control and check:

·         Talk and discuss but remember not to blame for every thing because it may generate anger to the one you are fighting with.

·         If this does not work then take a break. Easier said than done but you will have to do this in order to save yourself.

·         If possible take rest and and listen to music.

·         Talk to friends but do not creep or complain about some one.

·         Make real friends. Most of the times we make friends but online. You should either talk on phone or meet in person with your friends.

·         Its good if you have some one close in family but just check “nice hearted”

·         Help poor: this will really help. You can even go to near by slum or talk to your maid an give her some motivation/humor.

·         I strongly feel that listening to motivation is just an exercise but helping others is a practice.

·         Talk to child.

·         Play in field/ park.

·         Try to again resolve things with some new approach.

·         But at last when things do not work out try to forget the issue just by thinking” let it go” because everything in this world will not be directed the way you want.

·         If some thing unmanageable happens please avoid that person as much as possible because that’s not worth you.

Hope this will be a little useful for you in your because ultimately what matters is YOU.

Fundamentals of TRPs (television rating points)

You have heard quite a times people taking about TRPs and every time you come across this term you want to discover what is this?You always find people talking about TRPs but never understood this fundamentals. Its easy calculations or may be you can say other way of judging any TV programs. TAM(Television audience measurement) is the research organization who conducts this research.There are approximately 10,000 new programs across approximately 260 channels every year. In order to understand viewership of the people these research are being conducted.

Why do we need this research: we need to conduct these research for the following reasons:

• India is a large place and people here are from diffent backgrounds and different taste. Hence we need to have primary research before spending crore of rupee on communication.
• Understand audience.
• Viewership habits.
• It is also beneficial or the media planners and companies to understand the psyche of the audiences.
• It also help to understand the media habits of the people .
• Example if I am a eco- friendly pencil maker an want to communicate with my audience then the only choice I am left with is to understand the Target audience and in this case my majority of users will be children from age group 6 to 16 years as the need to understand the product and what makes this pencil different from others.  So the TV viewing habit of my Target Group will be a bit different from others. So generally speaking I will have to place my add/ spots on channels where I can find these kids. So it could be cartoon channels or any other channels of kids genre.

How these research are being conducted: There is a device know as People's Meter(like our remote) which is fit in the  TV  sets of the selected house of the respondents(people who are part of TAM Research). This sample size is between 10000 homes which approximately mans around 60000 people.Earlier it was approximately 5000 household across cities of India. 

What is the output of this research:With this research we can find the approx TV viewing habits of individuals. Their liking. This is very generic word. But we can also find the program loyalty, channel loyalty and many more such aspects. As mentioned earlier this helps the advertiser and even channels to know their viewers liking and choices.

This article must have helped you understand the basic TRP fundamentals.

Bed wetting or Nocturnal Enuresis

Believe me baby will learn sooner or later. It's just matter of time.This is one thing which is most difficult aspect of mother care. In fact I would not like it to be confined to mother care only. Bed wet is something very common in toddlers. toilet training is one very difficult aspect of child care. It is behavior hence it need training. Lets understand the child psyche.

First thing to understand is its good thing to do as it help us to clean our body toxic. Child is unaware of the fact that we can control our peeing for some time. This thing have to be taught  but in a tactful manner. Here are few tips for toddler between 0-6 years

• Check the time interval between two urination and then try to pee your baby may be with a sound like "sss"or "any other sound like "zzzz" for a while which is termed as "classical conditioning technique". You will notice after few weeks your baby will pee immediately  you make that sound.
• Repeat this activity even when baby is sleeping and you will notice that even while sleeping your baby will response.
• Advised to use diapers especially in winter nights to avoid baby sleeping in mess.
• Traditionally many mothers use plastic sheet as well.

**After two years you should minimize the use of diapers at night . It may be little painful for you as well but letting your baby in mess will help them learn new aspect of this life process. In case your baby does not learn it now this problem may go to next level. 

Baby in the age group of 6 years onwards

There is no perfect age but it is believed that at the age of 6 your baby should be aware of the fact rather baby's sphincter should send so strong signal to baby's brain that it should make baby aware for peeing but just in case this doesnot happen do not panic and try these steps

• Stop using diapers.
• Do not let your baby take any fluid 6 hours before sleep at night. Even if baby wants water allow him as much less as possible.
• Take baby to toilet just before bed.
• Stop late night milk or any other fluid.
• during day time train baby to hold peeing for some time. Don't shout but tell your baby to start  with short duration.
• There are many alarms available in the markets.
• There are many exercises to help them.
• In case they still continue do not feel two times to share this to child specialist/ pediatrician.

I know you always care but these are just few tips which will help you not to loose temper on your kids as yelling or shouting at your kids will just add to your problems.

All the best.